Kevin & Laura--Love, Laughter, Ice Cream and Cupcakes

Thursday: The Braves Game. We enjoyed Budweiser, popcorn, peanuts, wings, corndogs, brie, air conditioning, 50 seats for this Laura White & Kevin Powell the July 24, 2009 Super Bowl of Families Teams merger! Congratulations and thanks so much to the extremely proud "producers" Liz and Mark White. Their only child's wedding was a perfectly designed, planned, imagined and orchestrated celebration. I thoroughly enjoyed this VIP Suite gathering to meet Liz White, Mother-of-the-Bride, the owner/publisher of Atlanta Parent Magazine. Even Thursday's super Atlanta fans, Uncle Bill Satchwill & Jackson Powell, seemed to agree--Braves lost, we scored so many more "family connections" with the Kevin-Laura marriage.

For Margaret & Jack, parents of the groom, the first day of one more time to rejoice--5 down, and ALEX to go!!! and sincere congratulations on your achievement of getting all 10 of that gaggle of grandchildren all together, on time and all smiling for the family photo at 11:oo a.m. at the Decatur Town Square Gazebo.

Friday: I walked, shopped funky places in Decatur, visited the deKalb County Anne Frank Exhibit, and celebrated the random but oh so happy arrivals of every living Krider sibling/Kevin's Aunts and Uncles: Rosemary, Kathy, Betsy, Bill, Dik, Bob, Marijo & Kris--plus occasionally having actual sightings of the younger sister, super grammy, mother of the bride, Margaret. And there were so many more welcoming hugs and chattings with spouses, partners, cousins, children, in-laws, outlaws, friends so-close-they're family, more friends, greeting & meeting new friends & family from our connections and Laura's extended family. Then, mid afternoon--some serious recruitment, planning, and coordinating babysitters for those 8 grandchildren in anticipation of the 4 + hours while Laura & Kevin's parents and their wedding party, plus ring-bearer, Jackson & flower girl Caroline rehearsed and enjoyed an adult dinner at the Watershed restaurant.

Grateful cheers for "local" Marietta recruits & my total dedication to the belief that "it will all work out." Hooray for Aunt Jean & Cousins Bonnie & Jackie, Aunt Barb & Uncle Jim Powell, and Cousin-in-law Carla's magic touch with baby boys! We two elders, Aunt Kathy & Uncle Bill, actually managed to keep up with the action and survived the trek to the park, delighted in some kid comments and especially enjoyed the mini-conflicts over scooters, swings & slides. Cheers too for the miracle-timing of Uncle Jim & Marilyn being able to drive to PeachTree Airport to pick up Uncle Bill & Aunt Pat--and double, maybe triple thanks for Jane's Wine Delivery!!! Yep--it "all worked out!" always does.

Saturday: Celebration of the Marriage of Kevin Josef Powell & Laura Elizabeth White! There already are over 1000 photos online--and more to come. There are links to online albums, photoshopped book promotions, traditional photos of the bride and groom cutting the cake, and shared moments by all present during the solemn and prayerful celebration at St. Thomas More Church sharing the quiet reflection for those who could not be with us except in our thoughts. There are 778 online pix in Meg's "smilebox" photobooth --including these of 2 of my boys, Jim & Sam & Carla & Uncle Bob, super videographer, Kathy Schmid & the Davidson Kriders, Olivia & Isablla, the youngest two among the 28 grandchildren of Bill & Georgia Krider. Oh--there was that one other grand delight for me: A first ever "why the heck haven't we been doing this forever" experience --An ICE CREAM SUNDAES BAR to accompany cupcakes, wedding cake and the champagne toasts! Happy, happy me...."these are a few of my favorite things."

Sunday: Getaway day. Transferring Grippos boxes and cartons of Diet Barq's Creme soda, delivering Kevin & Laura to the airport en route to honeymoon destination in the Virgin Islands, a nice but too short outing to Melissa's for a brunch and music visit with best man Alex--and back home to Charlotte. If you weren't able to make this typical but unbelievably spontaneously spectacular wedding, you already know we talked about you. and if you aren't already married, we're all putting odds on when and where and/or there's Indy in May, or any opportunity to get together anywhere in the world--there's probably a Krider Connection! See y'all there, or post a picture.

On Religion or Lack Therof

Islamic Non-Violence: The Legacy of Badshah Khan

"No true effort is in vain. Look at the fields over there. The grain sown therein has to remain in the earth for a certain time, then it sprouts, and in due time yields hundreds of its kind. The same is the case with every effort in a good cause." -- Badshah Khan

Thanks to Rosemary for forwarding me that quote just as I was questioning why I was bothering to go to yet another meeting of the Charlotte-Mecklenburg Community Relations Committee. (Rosemary, reads, forwards good stuff and surfs the Internet even more hours a day than I do) So in my pleasure of having "nothing better to do" I went to the meeting, then came home and explored. Here's what I learned and feel compelled to blog about before we head back home to Indiana. We'll get to spend quality time with Satchwills, Kriders, friends and maybe get to go to the St. Lawrence Church festival. Summer festivals at the chruch where I was baptized, married and was expelled for the day from St. Lawrence School's 4th grade might be the ultimate "I was raised Catholic but I rarely go to Mass any more" experience for guilt tripping, bingo, fried foods & good times! So back to blogging and pondering...

Few people, both inside and outside the Muslim world, know anything about Abdul Ghaffar "Badshah" Khan. No, he isn't a hotshot cricket player or a renegade Afghan warlord. Khan, a contemporary of Mahatma Gandhi, was a proponent of Islam-centered nonviolent resistance to injustice whose ideas and achievements are being noticed as stories of a fractious Afghanistan, tribal Pushtun customs, and violence in the name of Islam fill the news.
Working alongside Gandhi to liberate South Asia from British colonial rule, Badshah Khan (affectionately known as the "Frontier Gandhi") spent his 98-year life proving that the highest religious values of Islam are deeply compatible with nonviolent conflict resolution, even against heavy odds. From the tribal Pushtuns, Khan assembled the world's first and largest non-violent army in the 1930s, the 100,000-strong Khudai Hidmatgars ("servants of God"). "I cited chapter and verse from the Koran to show the great emphasis that Islam had laid on peace," said Khan of his discussion with a skeptical Muslim. "I also showed to him how the greatest figures in Islamic history were known more for their forbearance and self-restraint than for their fierceness. The reply rendered him speechless." Could Badshah Khan's tactics work in modern-day conflicts in the Muslim world - Palestine, Kashmir, or Chechnya? Perhaps nonviolence isn't relevant in an age of smart bombs and cruise missiles, but the answer won't be certain unless someone tries it. Read more here: http://www.altmuslim.com/a/1590/

Additional ponderings on the subject of my history of anger, frustration, celebration and personal righteous indignation with my Catholic religious heritage.

I was thrilled at the term "congregation" used to describe the 20,000+ millions gathered to celebrate the music, dance, songwriting and smiles that Michael Jackson held dear for his own and children of the world.

Eva Staub Satchwill once said, "Oh yeah, I'm from Switzerland, but I'm hardly neutral!" Her husband, Bob, has long been more Swiss, I think, than American and makes me most proud when he stands up for his beliefs--that have nothing to do with organized religion and everything to do with peace, love & happiness! So I thought of Eva immediately when I read Sister Joan Chittister's column on a meeting of TED held in my favorite European country, Swizerland:

"They were Islamic scholars, a Hindu and a Christian nun, a Christian bishop and an ordained clergywoman, Jewish rabbis and even a Grand Mufti from Egypt. And what happened? At the end of the day, they all discovered that their separate religions had formed them well. Compassion, they agreed, is the universal in each of our faiths, the glue meant to hold the world together."

"Compassion, the Council said, is not pity since pity assumes superiority. Compassion is not an idea, it is an action that lifts the burden of the other because the other is of us. It is the determination to end the suffering of the other by spending oneself to do it. Compassion is fundamental to every faith and more urgently needed now more than ever. When whole people can be held hostage to robotized weapons of war and the kinds of "religious commitment" that makes the slaughter of innocents a holy act, compassion is needed."

"It is the function of churches to form the consciences of their members who seek to lead moral lives in their societies, rather than to take political sides against particular politicians or political systems." Joan Chittister on Mar. 05, 2009 From Where I Stand

To read more: TED a program launched in 1984 for the collection and pursuit of new ideas in science, business and the arts. (TED stands for Technology, Entertainment, Design.) The meeting referenced was Feb. 26, 2009. Links from atheism to Bill Gates, humorist Julia Sweeney and so many more thinkers and doers can be found free by finding TED online. Now I have to get OFF this computer and get packing.